Mother’s Day

Why I like this alternative perspective on Mother’s Day:

1. It doesn’t involve silly religious dogma.

2. It points out that the upbringing of a child should not be the responsibility or burden shouldered mostly by mothers, or of mothers alone.

3. Time off from children and the family, to be spent on their own, may be more appreciated by mothers than material gifts.

4. It is the everyday stuff that matters more – how about picking up after yourselves and lending a hand doing the dishes after dinner, for a start? (And I am directing this not just to children, but also to husbands.)

5. The Mother’s Day Proclamation by Julia Ward Howe – a powerful message for mothers, regardless of nationality, to stand up for peace: “We, the women of one country, will be too tender of those of another country / To allow our sons to be trained to injure others.”

The Belle Jar

I’m gonna be totally honest here: Mother’s Day makes me feel weird.

I think that part of it is that I have an automatic distrust of anything that’s gender-specific. Like, why is it Mother’s Day? Why not just Caregiver’s Day? Or Excellent Parental Unit Day? Or, as a friend of mine mentioned on Facebook, Gender-Diverse Parents’ Day? I mean, I get that it’s supposed to be about how hard mothers work, and how under-appreciated they are, but something about this sentiment seems … off to me. We spend most of the year crapping on moms, picking apart their parenting choices and publicly lambasting mothers that we disagree with, but suddenly we’re supposed to spend a day talking about how great they are? It sort of reminds me of the way that a good friend spoke about her ex – he was great at the big things (like buying her lavish…

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