Did any of you watch the movie, ‘Ombak Rindu’ when it topped the Malaysian box office last year? Well I did not and I don’t think I ever will.
Why? Firstly, it starred Aaron Aziz – and I’m not a fan of his in the way that I refuse to be an ardent fan or follower of anything that’s hot and in trend at the moment (hence why I will never understand the craze over K-Pop). That already put the movie on my ‘nah, I’ll see it later via someone else’s DVD’ list.
And then, I read on someone’s FB post that the movie’s storyline involved a woman asking her rapist to marry her (but WHYYYY?????) That did it for me: I got extremely turned off and vowed never to watch it. Never ever.
Discovering this podcast a year later, my heart says: Finally! Finally there is an articulation to my indignance. Do give it a listen, it’s in perfectly articulated English so no worries if ‘your Malay no good’.
And what is wrong with the religious narrative of ‘wanita beriman harus bersabar dan redha dengan nasibnya (mendapat suami pendera)‘? (Translation: A woman of faith / a believing woman should be patient and sincerely accept her fate (of having an abusive husband)
Because it puts bearing with abuse as part of faith, when by right nobody should put up with abuse because abuse is just wrong! The driver and his wife in the movie, as the only witnesses to the abuse, or the only ones who know how the main female character is abused and mistreated by her husband, should have just reported him to the police (or helped her to do so), instead of giving her the ill advice to ‘bersabar‘ (be patient).
And no, this definitely does not fall under the ‘keep private matters between your husband and yourself private’ in Islamic marriage 101 either. You’d be surprised how so many abused wives stay quiet for so long because they have been repeatedly told to preserve the privacy of whatever goes on in their marriage.
PS: It’s proven then, that when I’m in a passionate and expressive mood, I can churn out blog posts much faster than when I have to
force tell myself to keep a calm and neutral tone. I have like Objection #2 sitting in the drafts, lacking that rush of passion that would have otherwise propelled it to its completion much faster. Speaking of which, this post has a lot to do with Objection #3 regarding the consent of the husband, so can I just skip to that while the pan is still sizzling?